Was chatting with a regular and she was telling me about her efforts to find a husband. She wants a guy with money and really wants to be a mother.
She found a portly dude in his 30s on a dating app and they went out a few times, dinner, a museum visit, walk along the harbor, holding hands and a light kiss at the end. Very warm and fun, she said.
But she worried because she really liked this guy, but she always initiated the dates or even just daily texting.
She's Chinese, in her 20s, slim, pretty, seeing her friends get married and pregnant and doesn't want to be left behind.
So she decides to push this chubby bro.
She sends him a nude pic with the note, do you want to f--- me?
His reaction? Blocks her on all his social media accounts.
I think he's nuts. Even if not ready for marriage, how can he turn down a f--- even just for a night?
But interested to hear others thinking

She should get out of the business and find a real bf. Being a spa girl isn't a good way to find love. Harsh but true.

I don't think he's nut. Maybe he googled her pics and found her real job, or maybe he is chubby so when a pretty girl approaches him he thinks she trying to scam him.

[ Last edited by  norton2019 at 22-10-2021 21:29 ]

Could be any number of things.

Maybe the dude was already in a relationship and hiding that from the girl.
Maybe the dude was faking being wealthy.
Maybe the dude was playing around.
Maybe the dude just didn't have real relationship experience and didn't know how to act or react.
Maybe the dude had his own internal issues about dating a working girl - If he knew about that.
Maybe the dude just wasn't interested in her.

My $.02 here is that the girl, perhaps due to her age and relative immaturity or inexperience in real male female relationships, has through her "work" adopted a very pragmatic view which is not shared by a typical husband looking for a girlfriend and/or eventual wife.

I know some lovely providers respect and get on with very well, but I think their being in the business of being a provider, particularly the "lifers" who rent their own room, get mentally damaged by their profession and it makes them incapable of operating in the real world of male female relationships. Maybe less so with the massage girls and the 37D and KP girls, who can work as much or as little or as frequently or infrequently as they wish.

Contra, of course, I have heard the stories about bar girls in Thailand who have married and moved abroad, and go on with their lives (and I'm sure the same thing happens with providers in Hong Kong), but it may not be so common or easily done to return to a "normal" life with a conventional male female relationship.

Keep on mongering

Is the guy from China? You'll be surprised how conservative/shy some dudes are. Some marry for the sake of just marrying. The guy was probably raised by his parents to do good and find a wife that does good. Sending nudes and asking him to fuck her is as sinful as robbing a bank i guess...

Just my observation and simple question as a foreigner that's been living in HK for a while, are a lot of the local HK guys simps? Anecdotally I would observe numerous times where guys just put the pussy on a pedestal, and my personal opinion, local HK girls are honestly not that great... Don't get it

I can understand how one can be put off by that... essentially they are not in a relationship and the girl is offering free sex? Like how easy she is with other guys. If the guy wasn't interested in a non-serious relationship then this reaction might be understandable.

What are some of the apps for locals and dating

Not tinder right I mean that’s hook ups

The guy just skipped the "potential slut". I wouldn't blame him.

About Phils, in 2009 my regular Neptune II Thai girl was really surprised as she had an Aussie client (OK normal)
but his PHIL wife was getting involved
...WELCOMING HER NICELY into their home in Lantau for the week end ...and also pretending to be interested in playing threesome.

The Thai did not know where all that was going, so she asked me for some ideas.
My guess was that the PHIL had a kid with that guy (or somebody else) and was ready to tag along with WHATEVER COULD PLEASE HIM SO THAT SHE WAS NOT NOT DITCHED....so for her the Thai girl (not too old and very cute) was the ...DEVIL SHE KNEW ...easier to control....better than another devil
that would try to take HER man!!
More than once I have witnessed Phils being very possessive / jealous /...believing that "god" put you in their path....and being told the same by friends
Phil staff of Wanchai bars.

Fair point!

A Brazilian Escape girl (less than 30Y) came to that conclusion as while very beautiful and skilled, she was not cut for that business.

To be fair, when I crossed her path (that was her lucky day to bring peace of mind and $ for her to think) she had a shxt summer, amazing,
with everything that could go wrong going very wrong, ...even backstabbed by her  CLOSEST GIRL FRIEND (older but more a sex bomb) who was supposed to have her... back.

Several of my Escape regulars (i.e. ~ 1 or 2 weeks in summer there almost every night) got married and going well....and still in touch with them.

One Indonesian beauty (2011) married one of her clients (Aussie lawyer) in 2012
...and is still married but they are separated because the guy got broke,
but last time we chat on FB she was ok because miss smart cookie had very clear objectives and plans already in 2011
(and making shxtloads of $; I know the number$...as she was even able to get clients at ...SEVVA Prince's Building; she is a damned REAL legend)
so she was able to build her small personal business in Indonesia as planned.

However a Thai from Neptune II, got married one day by surprise...and it was clearly an accident waiting to happen, and it did happen, separated after
4month as it was impossible for this party animal to settle as the wife of a ...cook!

The weirdest was probably when a Mongolian, back from Singapore, asked me for MARITAL ADVICE...as a wealthy young sportsman there wanted
to marry her. Me to give such advices while cheating my wife ?
In fact, I was cold blooded enough to ask her ALL the questions and sort out out all the WHAT IF, WHAT IF,....
Several months later, having digested all that, she told me she passed on the offer ...and focused on her business....Now she is a big landlord in a small
city in Mongolia Very proud of her!!

and many more with different outcomes.

So the brain does play a part in this business!!

There is no free lunch under the sun. Do risk assessment

The guy just skipped the "potential slut". I wouldn't blame him. "they went out a few times, dinner, a museum visit, walk along the harbor, holding hands and a light kiss at the end" - I agree, the guy is hella shy, but she made a crucial mistake. Sending nudes with "wanna fuck me?" to a shy guy is not the wisest decision. How would you treat a guy who sends you pics like these ones https://www.dickhardon.com/? Like a loving husband and a father of your kids? I'm sure romantic stuff with polite asking for intimacy would make his dick take control.