Subject: Performance anxiety?
furryfriend
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Post at 2-4-2011 17:01  Profile P.M. 
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Performance anxiety?

I have an embarrassing "problem"...

I think I have performance anxiety.  I just finished a session in Pattaya without cuming.  The girl gave a BBBJ for a long time but I didn't cum.  Her technique wasn't good, but normally, I have no problems cumming nevertheless.  

Last week, in Macau, the girl BBBJ'd a REALLLLLLY long time before I came.

Other times, I go limp during penetration or oral.  

It usually happens if I feel the girl isn't into it.  Her bad attitude rubs up on me.

Do drugs like V or Cialis help?  I'm only in my early 30s!  I'm too young for this shit!

[ Last edited by  furryfriend at 2-4-2011 17:04 ]

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Do you have the same problems when it's with a girl you didn't pay for?
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If you normally take a very long time to cum, then your gf or wife will love you to death.

However, if you go limp when you are affected by surroundings, WG performance, using condoms, then you should try Viagra. It will get you Rock Hard for 4 hours and since you are hard you will be able to feel confident and it will resolve your psychological issue. Do not use Cialis cause it will not really have you stay hard as Viagra. Get the 100mg Viagra and split the tablet into 2s or 4s, for me a quarter of a tablet of Viagra is good enough for 4 hours. I only use it when i visit WG or when i use condoms with ONS, with gf I dun need it. Viagra or Cialis do not prolong discharge.
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What if you stay hard (so no need for the viagara), but can't cum so easily?

I found out I can only cum when I'm doing the controlling - in missionary or doggy style. I can't cum when it's girl on top or ifshe's giving me a blowjob or HJ (unless I'm helping her out).
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Post at 2-4-2011 23:49  Profile P.M. 
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Reply #1 furryfriend's post

Dont rely on drugs!
If the problem still exist then u should conbsider consult doctor.
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Post at 3-4-2011 10:14  Profile P.M. 
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Please forgive this silly question.  But once I take Viagra, do I need to get horny to get hard?  Or do I just get hard?
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Issue sounds like it is psychological, ie. you worry about it and then it happens, I've been there before and it's not a good experience.
Viagra/Cialis will help with the erection but I don't know about the inability to finish off.
However, as mentioned above, you should see a Doctor before you take these tablets as they can be dangerous and you need to understand the possible side effects.
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Post at 3-4-2011 11:22  Profile P.M. 
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^ But it seems lots of guys on this forum use these pills quite wantonly without prescrption!
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I say try viagra.  It works very well.  You do need to be horny - but one you see bare tits and ass you should be hard as a rock.  But having said that I am clealy not a doctor - so you should ask one first.
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Viagra was originally developed for high blood pressure, trials patients that took it noticed a side effect which is a Rock Hard Boner. Hence, the world most famous failure is the world most successful drug. Since Viagra is meant to lower blood pressure, people with low blood pressure should not take it.
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Post at 3-4-2011 14:07  Profile P.M. 
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V or c may help you stay hard, but I find that it is actually harder to cum.  I think it'sthe situation. If it was a hot new gf and no condoms, it prob wouldn't be a problem right?
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it's the opposite for me, I take a long time to cum with the SO but often very quickly with WGs. It's the "sex with stranger, don't know what to expect" factor that gets me off.
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So it is just psychological. So get the thinnest condom and V to try and build confidence. As they say, practice makes perfect, just punt more and you will get more comfortable. You have to choice of hundreds of beautiful WG with near perfect bodies, I am sure you will not be able to get the same standard as gf. So enjoy and relax.
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QUOTE:
Originally posted by furryfriend at 2-4-2011 17:01
I have an embarrassing "problem"...

I think I have performance anxiety.  I just finished a session in Pattaya without cuming.  The girl gave a BBBJ for a long time but I didn't cum.  Her te ...

Just do more and more bro.  Experience makes perfect.
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meeni
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Post at 5-4-2011 03:06  Profile P.M. 
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Here are a few things I've learnt over the years because back then I had pre-mature ejaculation which, believe it or not, is another form of performance anxity:

1. Never drink alcohol before sex, it either makes you screw like a rockstar (bad with WG = no time for cum) or make you cum in seconds (PME)

2. Tug one out during the day.. it relaxes you and removes a lot of that anxiety

3. Practice Kegel excercises

4. Empty your bladder first before sex! (A common thing that many men forget to do)

5. Close your eyes
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QUOTE:
Originally posted by meeni at 4-4-2011 02:06 PM
1. Never drink alcohol before sex, it either makes you screw like a rockstar (bad with WG = no time for cum) or make you cum in seconds (PME)

I believe one drink to relax is ok.  too much causes issues imo.


Maybe seeing a urologist would gives some insight to your issues.
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If I get a girl who's not into what is going on I'll say that lil bro is affected.  I think the easy solution is to find the ones that are into you and lil bro, and ignorethe rest, and you'll be fine.
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It just happens sometimes.  Not only w/ punting, but in real life.  There are many factors, like stress, mood, etc.
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Sometimes proper and regular exercise coupled with good diet and sleep works wonders for me to be "sexually fit". I agree with the Bros. this could be psychological and the best way to treat this is to try to get the girl of your dream (a porno star look-a-like of your dream) and then fuck her as hard as you can.
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Post at 10-4-2011 10:03  Profile P.M. 
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Relax, take a deep breath and think about the sex not the situation
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