The grass is always greener. Remember that.
I did this while I was in a LTR, and did this while I was single. It really is always there to scratch an itch, and no civie girl will ever do it. While you're single you might luck out with a date that leads to an entire night of passion that you could have with a K-girl in an hour on demand. But that will either turn into a relationship after a while with same old same old, or it will end with her saying vague things like things just aren't working out... and that's all of the closure you'll get. There's nothing you can do about it except move on and continue to be the best possible guy that you would want your daughter to date. Don't get an ego about it, though. There are quality girls on Hinge, but 90% of them are just inflating their ego while they are equally insecure and miserable being single, wondering why nobody wants them and at the same time never changing themself... Most of these girls out there honestly don't even want to be dating. They're so rare on apps, because most of the guys out there aren't worth their time. They are perfectly fine staying at home and not getting laid, sex for girls is not the necessity that it is for us.They can get it whenever they want, and their options are actually endless with Tinder. Only the top 5% of guys there are getting matches. It's not personal, we do the same with them.
If you want to eventually have a relationship, you'll probably get the best results from referrals from your friends. Once you're in your 30s, you are in your prime for girls, and it only gets easier. If your girl friends identify you as a decent guy, they will constantly be throwing single friends your way. If this isn't happening for you, go back to the drawing board and ask yourself why.
All of that said, this monger life is a secret one for us. We know we can get something, and we don't have to be single for it. PSE experiences aren't real. If a girl is giving that to you for free, she's leading you on because she wants something that she can't get from other guys... $280 is really cheap when you think about it. I've spent thousands on civie girls just trying to date them and nothing was guaranteed. Maybe exclusive BBFS, sure, but I just date because I enjoy their company. I'll go down to San Jose when I want to have really great sex with an experienced professional. | |
